What do you think of when you hear the word mindfulness?

Over the past 10 years that I’ve been teaching mindfulness-based stress management, I’ve heard a number of misconceptions about what mindfulness is. These misunderstandings can impair someone’s practice or desire to learn because people think they are “doing it wrong” for one reason or another. (e.g., “Oh, I’ve tried mindfulness but I can’t do it, my mind is too busy.” Exactly! It’s the nature of the mind to think. Thoughts are not an obstacle to mindfulness.) 

Having a realistic understanding of what mindfulness is helps support the practice. 

3 Common Misconceptions of Mindfulness 

Misconception 1: The goal is to empty the mind of thoughts.

That is like asking a bird not to fly. Our minds are meant to think. We have tens of thousands of thoughts a day. Mindfulness helps us cultivate the ability to be aware of our thoughts as they are, not to empty our mind of thoughts. We learn to rest our attention on a primary object of attention (sounds, breath, body sensations, or everyday things like brushing our teeth), noticing thoughts, and guiding our awareness back to the object of attention.

We may start noticing our wandering mind, or our habitual thinking that is not serving us. We can then consider which thoughts we want to feed, and which we want to weed.

Misconception 2: It takes too much time.

Mindfulness can happen in an instant. Purposely placing our awareness on the moment at hand is a moment of mindfulness. A mindfulness practice can simply be taking a conscious breath (or 2 or 3), feeling our body in a chair at meeting, feeling our feet on the ground as we walk to the water cooler, or bringing our full attention to a conversation. With that awareness, we allow what is there to be there and bring a feeling of curiosity, compassion, kindness.

Practicing mindfulness regularly, while doing everyday activities, or while taking a conscious pause a few times a day can help bring clarity, focus, and more creative problem-solving to deal with life’s everyday demands.

Misconception 3: It’s an end to stress and pain.

If we’re alive, we will experience stress and pain to varying degrees, AND we can learn new, beneficial ways to respond. The good news about stress is that the body’s reaction to stress can actually enhance our performance and/or save our life. Chronic stress, however, can impair performance, clarity, and jeopardize our health.

Mindfulness helps us look at how we respond (rather than react) to stress. It helps us learn to notice when stress is arising, so we can take action to intervene as necessary. We can take action when stressed (or preparing for a stressful situation), so we can build stress resilience, endurance, self-regulation.

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